Before we get into this, let's be clear on what self-esteem is.
Often confidence and self-esteem can be confused or mixed, but they're two different things. The easiest way to think of it is that self-esteem relates to how you feel about yourself. These are the thoughts, feelings and beliefs you have regarding yourself. Confidence is more towards specific things. For example, are you confident brushing your teeth or pouring a glass of water?
Most likely 'Yes'.
We have confidence in some things but not in everything. You may feel confident driving a car but not riding a motorcycle. You may feel confident talking to a friend but not a stranger.
When we lack confidence in an area it's our self-esteem that is making it harder for us to find confidence in it.
If you work on your self-esteem and belief in yourself, you start trusting yourself more and your abilities, and in return, you feel more confident.
So how do you know if you have low self-esteem?
Read the statements below and count how many you agree with:
1) I focus more on my weaknesses than my strengths.
2) I frequently compare myself to others.
3) I'm quick to dismiss my skills or accomplishments.
4) I'm very sensitive to criticism.
5) I find it hard to make decisions.
6) I feel anxious or uncomfortable in social situations.
7) People don't value my thoughts or opinions.
8) I blame myself when things go wrong.
9) I avoid challenges because of fear of failing.
10) I don't tell people how I feel because they don't care.
How many of those statements did you agree with?
0-2. Low self-esteem isn't something you are suffering from. You may have days where you feel down or doubt yourself but generally have good levels of self-esteem.
3-5. A score of 3-5 means you may want to look into improving your self-esteem. There are areas in your life that you may be struggling with and this could be down to a lack of self-belief.
6-10. This score shows you are struggling with your self-esteem and may need to spend some time trying to repair and build your self-belief. I would recommend scheduling a session to talk about it and how we can start a program that's tailored for you.
If you want to be more confident I always suggest starting from the inside and working out. In other words, let's build the foundation of a strong self-belief and then confidence will naturally follow.
Low self-esteem is something everyone will suffer from at some point in their life and you shouldn't feel any shame in how you're feeling at the moment. Know that this is temporary and you don't have to define yourself as someone with low self-esteem. With work and guidance, it can change, and self-belief can grow and find a home in you.